Dear Aunt Noor,

I have a big problem and I hope you can help me. My oldest brother is controlling my life especially after my father’s death. He does not let me do whatever I want. He treats me differently than all my sisters. He uses a stronger approach with me and is much harder.  No one can tell him to stop because he is the responsible one in the family. Even my mother can’t!

Please help me.

Thank you Aunt Noor.

Dear Susu,

Your problem is not that big as you said, on the contrary, it happens to all girls in your age. I mean most girls have the same problem with their older brothers, so don’t worry. it is not that big of a deal.

Dear, you were not very clear when you explained why he is controlling your life and why he treats you differently from the other sisters. Since he does not treat you as good as your sisters, that means you have a hand in the problem as well.

I don’t know what exactly goes on because you did not tell me in details, but I guess that you always argue with him that is why he treats you badly.

Stop arguing with him because that will make some sort of obduracy which is going to be worse. He is your brother and you should respect him because he is in the place of your father.

So listen to him even though you dislike it. At the beginning, it will be difficult for you because he will not respond easily. He already put in his mind that you dislike and disrespect him, but with time and some patience from you, he will change his first impression about you and trust you again. Show him that even though you dislike his rules and orders but you will be willing to do so just to satisfy him. Later you will notice the differences and you will feel what I am trying to tell you. I hope that you get what I mean, and I know that you are strong enough to do it.

I will be waiting for your next email.

To ask Aunt Noor for her Advice , email her at noor@yemenpost.net