Dear Aunt Noor,

I have been married for 12 years but I don’t have children. The problem is from me, I traveled to different countries for treatment but all the results were negative. My husband is a very good man, he never talks in front of me about children or even that he wants to be a father. After I lost hope to be a mother, I told him to get married to another women and I will be happy to see him happy. At the beginning, he said no, but I insisted. He got married and got the first child. I noticed that he changed a lot; he treated me icily and his wife treated me the same way. They never let me carry the child; they think that I will harm their child. After consisting problems, I decided to leave his home and I did. I stayed seven months in my brother’ home; my husband never calls or asks about me. My brother told me to get divorced because he forgot me. He said that he will look for me a job and i can start a new life. So what do you think of my brother’ idea?

Abeer

Dear Abeer,   

I feel sorry for you, but this is god's will. You did the right thing. I don’t want you to feel sad or get depressed. At least you were not selfish with him and sacrificed your happiness for him while he was thankless. Do you still have the hope that your husband will change to the better? If so, give him a chance and contact him,  but if you think that he will not, it is better for you to accept your brother' offer and get a divorce. In my opinion, this will be good for you to forget him and his past.

Working and starting a new life is a good idea to see your life again, meeting new people and dealing with new faces, new routine, new activities will take you out of your sorrow and painful memories. Be strong and don’t let such an incident destroy your warm heart; on the contrary, let what happened make from you a stronger woman.

Don’t say you cannot because you can do it even though it is difficult.

All the best.

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