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Aunt Noor Article Date: February 18, 2008 |
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Dear Aunt Noor, I would like to thank you for your advice to the questions I asked before. They worked with me thank you. I have another thing I want you to help me with. I know someone in the university. After I ignored him for many times, he asked me to give him a chance and listen to what he wants. He said that from the first time he saw me, he fell in love with me and he is serious about marriage. So I accepted to listen and I contacted him. Once, he asked me to go out of the university with him so people don’t talk about me in a bad way. At the beginning, I was hesitant, but because I wanted to know him more, I did. Days later, he asked me again but I said no. He got angry and started acting differently. He stopped talking to me and even stopped coming to the university. One day, he called me and I asked him why he was acting like this. He said he was shocked and my refusal showed him that I don’t trust him and he is very disappointed at me. But the way he was talking to me as if he was hiding some sort of a threat. I am really afraid and I don’t know what to do. I just want to know his real intention, and whether he is serious or not.
Dear Susu, I want you to know one thing; you are living in a conservative country which is ruled by its strong customs and traditions. When he told you that he wants to talk to you but out of the university, do you think it was right? Also, he said that he does not want people to talk about you badly when they see you with him. What does that mean to you? It is clear that it is wrong; you cannot go with someone who tells you that he loves you and wants to know you more. He should propose to your family first then you can go out with your family's permission. Through the period of engagement, you can know whether he is the one whom you dreamed of to be a wife for or not. Secondly, you said that you want to know his real intention towards you, this will be very easy. If he asks you to go with him again, refuse and see his reaction. From his reaction, you will be able to figure out what he wants from you. Firmly, tell him that he should see your family. If he accepts, fine; if not, leave him. If he tries to harm you in any way, inform your family. It is better for you to be punished by your family rather than gaining big loses. By informing your family, you will not give him a chance to harm you.
Good luck
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