Dear Aunt Noor, 

I would like to thank you for helping people through this corner. Aunt Noor, I’m a shy guy. I never talked to girls and sometimes either with boys. Now, I'm in college and from the first day in college, I fell in love with a girl. I always think of her and I can't get her out of my mind and I started feeling that thinking about her all the time would affect my level in college. I am a good student and I used to be the first in school. I tried to talk to her but I couldn’t and the longest conversation just lasted 30 second and we were talking about our study’s. I'm a serious guy and I don't want anything from her but marriage. Since I am shy I could never tell her about my feelings but at the same time I am scared if someone asks for her hand in the near future before I finish my college and can talk with my family about marriage. They think I am too young. Looking forward to hearing from you.

Shy Guy.

Dear Shy Guy,

Before you know my opinion, I want to review with you some facts that you mentioned in your question. You said that you fell in love with her from the first day you saw her which means that it might just be feelings of admiration and not real love. You also said that you are a shy person and you couldn’t speak with her for more than 30 seconds which means that you don’t know much about her. I mean the way she thinks and other things.

Dear son, in your age feelings get more excited than normal. It means that you might just fall in love with her just because you need to love someone and someone loves you. But do you really love her? For example, do you know bad qualities and if you did would you still love her? Did you make sure that she is the girl who you can trust her to be your wife and share your life. From what you mentioned, I think you still need more time to be sure about your feeling towards her and for now try to busy yourself in positive activities and studying. When you feel relax about her, you must talk to your family first and take their acceptance and discuss the ability of making the engagement  now and delay the marriage until you finish you college.

Wish you all the best.

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