Dear Aunt Noor,

I really appreciate your advice and I read your column every issue. I am 30-years-old. I have been married for 8 months and I moved to a separate house away from my family after I got married to my cousin. After I moved out, I realized that she was a bad cook and she does not care about cleanliness at home and even my cloths. I even go out in the morning while she is still asleep. She does not prepare breakfast for me or even a cup of coffee. I feel that she is somehow careless and does not care about me. The problem is that my mom is the best cook and always cares about the whole family. Do you think is it a good idea if I tell her to go and learn how to be a good wife from my mom? If not then tell me how I can solve my problem before it becomes too late.

A.N

Dear A.N

Thanks for your nice words and you are welcome any time to ask questions. First of all, you mentioned that your wife is your cousin, so I think it is logical that you knew here before marriage. Anyways, you should talk to her and tell her the aspects, which she needs to improve without getting angry at her. Try to smile when talking about the issue but at the same time let her feel that if she does the things you want, you will love her more. At the same time, if you see progress from her side show her some appreciation and thank her.

I do not think it is a good idea to tell her to learn from your mother. That might let her hate your mom. Instead of that, let her choose the person who she likes to learn from. She can also learn cooking from books and thousands of websites on the net which teaches how to cook in specific and how to please the husband in general.

As you said, you want my advice before it becomes too late; therefore, I want you to be serious with her.

If things don’t go well, I advise you to contact her parents and ask them how to solve that problem.

Wish you all the best

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