Dear Aunt Noor,

Hi, I really need your help. Recently I fell in love with this girl and she loves me as well. I talked to my family about her and I told them that I want to marry her because I feel that I will be happy with her. The problem is that my mom refused and now I am really confused. I want her but at the same time I don’t want to go against my mom. Please help me aunt. Waiting for your reply.

Your son,

Khaled

Dear Khaled,

Thank you for your question. Even though it's sad to read your problem, but at the same time I was happy to read that you don’t want to do something that your mom doesn’t agree with and therefore, I am sure that God will help you in solving  your problem.

Let’s talk now about your question. I wish you gave me more information about yourself such as your age and how you got to know the girl. Also, why your mom refused the idea. Anyways, first of all, you need to know why your mom refused her. Is it because that she noticed something serious about the girl and her family? I want you to be very logical when thinking about this point. Try to keep love aside and think about your mom’s negative points about the girl. If you feel convinced that there are no serious negative aspects about the girl then try to convince your mom. I advise you not to oppose her because she would never like her even if you got married, and that would affect your future. Try to convince your dad, your oldest brothers and sisters, if you have, and let them help you in convincing her. Let her feel that you love her more than anything else and you would never do something she doesn’t want.

If all that doesn't help, tell your family that you will not get married to anyone else. Whenever your mom discusses with you the issue about any other girl, be polite with her and tell her that you took out of your mind the idea of getting married completely from any other girl. After a while, I expect that your mom will change her mind. But remember to never oppose her directly or make her angry when discussing the issue. Think about it a lot and make sure that you are making the right decision. If you are still young then it would be a good idea if you delay the issue and don’t get afraid that someone else might marry her because if she is your fate then you will surely marry her.

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