Dear Aunt Noor,

I am 33-years-old. I am married and I have 4 children. The oldest girl is 15. My problem is I can’t stand my husband’s acts anymore. Even though I admit that he respects me very  much. He spends more than 10 hours at work. When he comes back, he doesn’t accept hearing any noise and he doesn’t even play and talk with his kids for more than 10 minutes. He prefers to sleep when he has free time. I feel that he threw all the responsibility of raising the kids on my shoulders. Even when I get sick, he doesn’t help me with housework. I really give up and I don’t know what to do. I wonder if all married people have my boring tiring life, and I hope you can find a solution for my problem.

Om Eman 

Dear Om Eman,

I hope that your life is always away from problem. First I want to assure you that all couples have problems and you are not the only one who has a problem with your husband.  About your question, I believe that you should excuse him for doing that. Working and staying outside under pressure for more than 10 hours a day is not as easy as many people think. I think your husband waits for the moment he can go back home to relax and prepare himself for a new working day to collect money so he can guarantee a better life for his family. I feel how much both of you work and struggle in this life in different ways to raise your kids. Therefore, both of you really need to have some free time to relax. The same way I don’t want you to add for him more responsibilities at home,  I ask you to have some mercy on yourself. You mentioned that your oldest daughter is 15 so let her help you a little with the housework. Even your other children can help too. Let them be responsible about their mess and try to treat them from now to clean their bedrooms for example and encourage them when they help in any housework. Also, I advise you to kick out the routine boring life from your home. Try to do some enjoyable activities on weekends with your family like going out for a picnic because these activities would refresh the nice feelings for you and your husband. Also, it gives the children a chance to spend more time with their dad.

I wish to hear from you good news soon.

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