Dear Aunt Noor,

I wish I could find a solution for my problem. I am a 20-years-old and I have been married for 18 months. My problem is that I used to love my cousin when I was a teenager but circumstances didn’t help us to be for each other. I loved him so much and frankly I still do love him even though I am the wife of someone’s else now. Whenever I have an argument with my husband, I wish I got married to my sweetheart. To be honest with you, I never loved my husband or treated him in a romantic way.

Your daughter M.A

Dear M.A, 

Unfortunately to say that you don’t want to face your real situation. You are now married to someone else and I consider it as a kind of cheating when you still live with your past love memories. Your husband has the right to feel his wife’s love. He is not the cause that you didn’t marry your cousin so it is not fair to let him pay the tax for it the rest of his life with you.

About your previous love story, I want to tell you that most people don’t marry their first love because in most situations that love is considered immature and therefore there are always many things that stop them from getting married. Moreover, statistics show that a lot of people who get married after a long love story have bad boring lives after marriage, and many for them divorce a short while after getting married. One of the biggest problems our children face and especially teenagers is when they fall in love and think that they will continue living the same romantic happy life after marriage. Before marriage, couples always show the best qualities they have, but then when they become under one roof, they start to see the bad qualities in their partners and feel that they can’t stand all these bad qualities.

My daughter, I want you to be sure that even if you got married to the guy you love, there will be a lot of problems between the both of you. I want you to forget him completely and start to enjoy your real life with you husband. Be realistic and feel happy that your husband loves you. Enjoy your life with him. You might need sometime, but I am sure that if you really want to do so, then you will. Remember that we are the ones who draw the happiness in our life. May God please you and your husband.

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