Hi Aunt Noor,

It has been quite a while since I last contacted you. Just to let you know about my relationship with the Yemeni guy, he has already informed his family that he wants to marry me.

The biggest problem I am facing now is with my family. Everyone seems to disagree with me. I wish I can cut my body into two. I love him but I love my mom too. I have gone through three relationships before, but none of them talked about marriage only him, but with all these problem, I feel so stressed.

Regards,

Wan

Dear Wan,

Thanks for your question. I am happy to hear from you again. I can understand from your letter that many events happened during the last time you contacted me. I was happy to read that he talked to his family about the issue and that shows that he really wants you. Even though he can marry you without letting his family know about the issue and he can tell them later when you become his wife, he decided to make everything clear from the beginning because he is confident and convinced about his pick.

I didn’t get surprised when I read that both of you are facing opposition from your families. His  family is scared that you may convince him to leave and go to your country or something else, while your mom can’t imagine you leaving her. Also, both families are thinking seriously about what could happen to the children if the marriage doesn't work out, God forbid.

Wan, I expect that both of you know already where are you going to settle and so on. Therefore, if you are going to live in Yemen, I want you to relief your mom and tell her that things have become easier today and you can contact her anytime to see how see is doing, or to just keep in touch. He should also from his side tell his family that he is going to live next to them and that you are completely convinced to live in Yemen without problems. His family might count on him a lot because he is a man, and his presence next to them is mentally very important.

To ask Aunt Noor for her Advice , email her at noor@yemenpost.net